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Why Do Couples Renew Their Vows?

For many couples, once is enough. Their wedding is a cherished memory, but they don’t feel the need to renew their vows. For others, vow-renewal ceremonies are a special opportunity to reinforce the bond between them and reaffirm the strength of their marriage. In fact, there are many reasons why couples choose to renew their vows.

First Wedding Wasn’t “Complete”

One reason couples decide to renew their vows is that they feel their first ceremony was lacking in some way. Maybe they were married in a legal ceremony, but now want to be renew their vows in a church. Or perhaps their first ceremony was spiritual only, but now they want to make it legal.

In some cases, couples chose a courthouse wedding the first time around, either to save money or for other reasons. They may always have planned to have a vow-renewal ceremony and reception at a later date, when they would be better able to plan a large (or small) party.

To Reaffirm their Commitment

Life can test even the strongest relationships. After a difficult stretch in their relationship or a challenging life event, couples may feel the desire to renew their vows. This could be in either a very small, personal ceremony or in front of all their friends, depending on the circumstances and the individual needs of the couple.

To Celebrate a Major Anniversary

Couples may choose to incorporate a vow-renewal ceremony into an anniversary celebration. Especially if they are already planning an anniversary party, why not incorporate a vow renewal? Or, renewing vows can be a romantic part of an anniversary trip (perhaps a late or second honeymoon).

Because They Want To

It isn’t necessary to have a specific reason. Some couples aren’t interested in renewing their vows, but for others, it just feels like a natural thing to do.

Whatever the reason, a strong marriage is something to celebrate. Vow-renewal ceremonies can be small and personal or the big party you didn’t have the first time around (or just want to relive). Stonebrook Manor in north Denver can help you plan a special event to meet your needs, from an intimate garden reception to a full-scale catered event with dancing and cake.

Contact us today to schedule a tour.

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Big Wedding vs. Courthouse Wedding

Wedding planning can be overwhelming. Sometimes it can be tempting to skip all the hassle and just have a no-frills courthouse wedding. Big weddings aren’t for everybody, nor are courthouse weddings. Before deciding on the scale of your wedding, it is important to give careful consideration to what you really want.

Think Big

Perhaps you’ve always dreamed of a big wedding. An amazing venue overflowing with flowers, a multi-tiered cake, hundreds of guests, and all the rest. A large wedding can be an amazing event you will remember forever. It’s also one of those rare events that can reunite scattered families and bring diverse groups of people together to celebrate a special event.

But big weddings are also very expensive. They take a lot of time and planning, and the stress of planning a wedding can take its toll on even the strongest couple. At their worst, big weddings are fraught with expectations and the possibility of things going wrong.

Considering the Courthouse

At the opposite end of the wedding spectrum is the simple courthouse wedding, either just the two of you or witnessed by a few close friends. Courthouse weddings are quick and inexpensive. They also avoid the large family get-together that can come with all the wrong kind of drama.

Courthouse weddings are intimate. Despite their reputation of being chosen primarily for expediency, they can be very romantic for some couples. On the other hand, courthouse weddings can also feel impersonal and can be immensely disappointing for a woman who always dreamed of a fairy-tale wedding. Is the benefit of saving time and money really worth years of regret?

Careful Compromise

The good news is that big weddings and courthouse weddings are at opposite extremes of the many possibilities for a wedding.

Couples sometimes choose a courthouse wedding because they think they can’t afford a more traditional wedding. However, there are many ways to save money on a wedding. A summer wedding in a beautiful backyard with a potluck reception and a rented wedding dress can still feel like a very special occasion without putting a couple into debt. If you don’t know anybody with a large enough yard, consider renting a picnic shelter at a local park. Decide which elements of a “traditional” wedding really matter most to you and let yourself indulge in those, but let go of the rest.

If your main concern is getting married quickly, either for practical reasons or because you just can’t wait, you still aren’t limited to a courthouse wedding. With a little creativity, a small but personalized wedding can be planned quite quickly. Even a larger wedding can be arranged fairly quickly, although you may be limited in choice of venue and there will be less time for out-of-town guests to make arrangements.

If it is the stress of planning a big wedding that is leading you to consider giving it all up in favor of a courthouse wedding, consider hiring a wedding planner. A good wedding planner can save you time, money, and, most importantly, your sanity!

The Final Decision

Whether you already know what kind of wedding you want or you’re still weighing your options, Stonebrook Manor in north Denver can help you plan a wedding you’ll remember forever.

We can be creative to keep your dream wedding within your budget, and our wedding packages make the planning easy. Contact us today to learn more about how we can help you have the wedding you could only dream of.

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Where Did The Term “Getting Hitched” Come From?

“Getting hitched” is one of our most common slangs for getting married, but where did this phrase come from?

A Uniquely American Expression

We’re not certain how the worth “hitch” enters English (though there are a few theories), but it’s originally associated with an irregular movement or jerking sensation from about the 15th century. It doesn’t come to mean tied or fastened for a century, first gaining that meaning in 1570. From there it came to be used to describe tying horses up to a wagon, and then in the US it came to be used to describe getting married, as if two people were being tied together the way that horses are tied to a wagon.

Equality in Marriage

The phrase is a natural one for a society that was primarily agrarian and utilized animal power for most of its industrial activities. From plowing to transport to running a mill, people had a sense that animals were used for work, and this phrase emphasizes the fact that marriage and maintaining a household are work.

The phrase also carries with it an egalitarian 19th century sensibility, that when two people are bound together in marriage they should bear the responsibilities of life equally, the way a team of horses is supposed to work to pull a wagon.

A Biblical Connotation

The phrase has an additional meaning for a strongly religious community because it has several potential parallels in the Bible. For example, the passage, “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness?” (2 Cor. 6:14) is commonly interpreted as referring to a prohibition of Christians marrying non-Christians, referring back to Deuteronomy’s law against plowing with an ox and a donkey yoked together (Deut. 22:10).

It also refers back to Jesus’ admonition, “Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me; for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” (Mt. 11:29-30) Read in this context, the work of marriage takes on a redeeming, joyful quality.

With all these meanings, it’s no wonder that the phrase gained quickly in popularity to become one that we still use, more than a century and a half later.

If you are looking for a wedding venue for getting hitched, please call 303-557-2347 or contact Stonebrook Manor in north Denver for a tour of our beautiful facilities.

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Does the Bride’s Father Always Pay for the Wedding?

Although it’s traditional that the bride’s father pays for the wedding, this tradition is rooted in customs that are no longer relevant, and there are many ways to determine who will pay for the wedding.

Why the Bride’s Family Traditionally Pays

The tradition that the bride’s family pay for the wedding is derived from the notion of a dowry. In the past, when women weren’t allowed to live on their own, work outside the home, or own property, an unmarried daughter was a considerable burden, especially on families living at or near the subsistence level. To remove this burden, her family would pay a man to marry her. The money also helped cover the expenses of setting up the new home and helping the man become more productive so he could support an extra mouth with his labor.

Looked in that light, the tradition is at best irrelevant to the modern world and at worst potentially offensive. Some women look at a dowry as a bribe offered to a husband so he would consent to marry them, and linking their wedding with this tradition is insulting.

Some people like tradition for tradition’s sake, but others consider alternatives.

Splitting the Cost Evenly

One potential alternative is that everyone involved in the party pay their fair share. Dividing the costs evenly allows everyone to participate as equals in the wedding, which is good financially for the bride’s family, but has other benefits, too. Sharing the costs leads to sharing the decision-making. It brings both families together to work on the wedding and sets up a model of cooperation that can help the families become one.

It’s also good to divide the costs three ways rather than two. Making an engaged young couple pay a share of the costs helps them to start thinking of themselves as adults. It will encourage them to make reasonable decisions and factor in their budget when planning, which is a good habit to learn early in a marriage.

The only problem with this option is that it can be a delicate one to bring up. If a groom’s family is expecting the bride’s family to pay, it can cause some friction when the subject is brought up. The bride’s family, too, may be offended if they think the implication is that they can’t afford to pay. The best way to approach this is for the betrothed couple to make this decision for themselves, then discuss it with their families separately.

When Couples Should Pay for Their Own Wedding

However, the whole tradition of having the parents pay comes from a time when children only left home when they were married. In today’s society, many couples have lived on their own for years—even decades—before choosing to get married. In these cases, it makes no sense to ask the parents to pay and couples should cover the costs of the wedding themselves.

Second marriages, especially, should be viewed by the couple as their responsibility.

Although parents should not feel obligated, their spontaneous offers of help should still be taken in the loving spirit they’re offered. Sharing the cost of a wedding allows for more friends and family to come together to celebrate the special event.

If you would like to learn more about handling traditional problems in a modern marriage, we can help. Please contact Stonebrook Manor today and schedule a consultation and tour of our Denver wedding venue.

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The Do’s and Don’ts of Wedding Dress Shopping

After the excitement of the proposal has worn off it is time to start one of the most important parts of planning a wedding, shopping for your dress!

Most people believe that dress shopping is easy. But the truth is it can be stressful and exhausting both emotionally and physically. Shopping for your wedding dress should be an enjoyable and memorable experience. But with thousands of wedding gowns to choose from and multiple bridal boutiques to visit it can quickly become overwhelming.

Here are a few Do’s to make your wedding dress shopping experience the best!

Prepare For The Day!

One thing that many Brides forget to do is Eat! You are so excited to find the perfect wedding dress that you forget to eat. Not having food in your stomach can cause you to feel faint, or just to become irritable and not be able to make the best decision on your gown. So eat a full breakfast, or simply grab a granola bar.

Do A Little Research

You want your wedding dress shopping experience to be easy and stress-free so one thing we recommend is to do a little research ahead of time. You don’t want to go into the boutiques with no idea of what you like so spend a little time on Pinterest researching wedding dresses or buy a bridal magazine. Doing so will give you an idea of the look you are attracted to or the overall feeling that you want your wedding to be. This will help your Bridal Stylist visually understand what you like and then be able to bring the perfect wedding dress to you.

Have An Open Mind

Doing some research ahead of time will help you understand what you like but make sure you don’t have your heart set on one thing. Once you start trying gowns on you may see that your vision changes, so make sure you come with an open mind. Trust you Bridal Stylist and openly communicate with her about your likes and dislikes. She will take all the information you offer, the good and the bad and be able to blend them all into one beautiful dress that is perfect for you!

Wear Proper Undergarments

I know this might sound crazy, like who wouldn’t wear undergarments when they go out shopping in public? But it is true! Shopping for your wedding dress is different from regular retail shopping. Most of the time will be spent with you and your Bridal Stylist in the dressing room together and yes, you will be in your undergarments so make sure to wear some!

Things Not To Do When Wedding Dress Shopping:

Unknown Budget

Prices for wedding dresses can range from $300 – $50,000, so you need to know how much you are will to spend before you hit the boutiques. You don’t want them to put you in a gown that is way over your budget because if you love it you can’t afford it you will be devastated.

Don’t Bring Too Many People

You may think that you want all of your family and friends to go shopping with you. The reality is sometimes you can bring too many people or just the wrong people. A good general rule of thumb is to bring 3-4 of your closest family and/or friends and that’s it! Dress shopping is overwhelming by itself without adding all of your bridesmaids, cousins and soon-to-be sisters-in-law. Less is more in this area, bring the ones that you value their opinion the most!

Don’t Show Up Without An Appointment

You want to make certain your dress shopping experience is enjoyable and memorable so don’t wing it! Make sure that you call the boutiques that you are interested in shopping at ahead of time to schedule an appointment. If the bridal boutique is booked when you arrive and you don’t have an appointment they will turn you away. Talk about ruining the experience!

Don’t Choose A Wedding Dress Just Because It’s Trendy

You know that fashion trends change from time to time and many of them are things that you may not want to look back on in twenty years. Keep this in mind when you are shopping for your wedding dress. If something is super trendy it may not be the perfect wedding dress for you. Take a moment to think about in ten years when you look at your pictures what do you want to see. Your wedding gown should be timeless so keep this in mind while you are shopping.

Don’t Make Impulse Buying Decisions

Sales at most bridal boutiques are final so do not make impulse purchases. If you have a doubt or feel a little uncertain speak to your Bridal Stylist and let her know that you need to think about it. Sharing your thoughts or uncertainties will make certain that you are choosing the perfect dress for your wedding day.

Shopping for your wedding dress is magical and emotional experience. Cherish the time you have, don’t stress about it and trust your Stylist. The perfect wedding dress can truly be yours!

 

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Everyone Should Know These Wedding Ceremony Rules

It’s natural to want your wedding ceremony to be magically perfect – and while the flowers, the music, and the backdrop surely matter a lot, it is also important to make sure you follow some etiquette rules that will make everyone happy (including yourself).

What are the wedding ceremony rules all couples should know? We have some tips for you – so read on and find out more.

  • You don’t have to include everyone in the wedding, even if they’re a relatively close member of the family. It’s entirely your choice if you give all of your willing relatives the chance to do a reading or speak during the ceremony – you can assign them many other tasks (such as ushering the guests, making sure the VIP seats aren’t taken, etc.)
  • You don’t have to follow tradition word by word, especially if it makes you feel distressed. For instance, it’s completely understandable if you think your Ring Bearer is too young to bear the responsibility of two little (and easy to get lost!) rings on a pillow. So, it’s totally OK if he carries them in a box, or if the rings are tied to the pillow. Even more, it’s OK if he doesn’t actually carry the rings at all – he can carry something else, such as the unity candle.
  • You can definitely ask people not to take photos until after the ceremony. Let them know of your wish in the wedding programs, and ask ushers to remind guests of this when they enter the wedding ceremony site as well. We’re sure they will all respect your choice!

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Save Money on Your Wedding Flowers, Like a Pro

Your wedding flowers? Obviously, really important when it comes to creating just the right ambiance during the Big Day. Like it or not though, wedding flowers usually end up being one of the costliest wedding-related expenses – so what is there to do when you want to save some dollars and still get the stunning florals you want so much?

There are a lot of things you can do – and following, we have gathered some of the most important tips. Read on and find out more.

  • The simpler, the better. Simplicity is not only the key of elegance, it is also the key to money saving decisions. Choose wedding arrangements and bouquets that keep it really simple, with one or two types of blooms and not much else – they will look absolutely amazing, they will save you a lot of money, and they will be easier to incorporate into the rest of the wedding décor too.
  • The greenery, the better. Did you know greenery is a huge, huge trend in 2018? We love it from so many points of view! Romantic, fresh and versatile, greenery is also one of the most cost-effective floral solutions for weddings – so yes, you too should love it!
  • The more seasonal, the better. Seasonal wedding flowers will ALWAYS be less expensive than off-season options. Moreover, local options will definitely lower your flower bill as well. Try to find seasonal and local solutions for your dream wedding flowers and you will win so much!
  • The venue? Definitely a big factor. Choosing a wedding venue that’s already decorated with flowers and which offers a nice landscape means you will have to spend less on bringing your own florals – so definitely do this if you have the option!

 

Have you found your perfect wedding venue in Denver? Still searching? If you are, be sure to come and see the gorgeous manicured gardens and elegant wedding venue Stonebrook Manor offers – you will LOVE it here!

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Coordinate Your Wedding Veil with Your Style

Your wedding style is not just an outfit you wear to a night out with the girls. It’s the look you will embrace to reflect your personality and love story. It’s the appearance you will create for one of the biggest moments of your life!

Of course, you want everything to be really well-coordinated – and yes, this includes the wedding veil too (if you choose to wear one, of course). What are some of the latest trends in the wedding veil section, though? We’ve gathered them below – so read on if you want to coordinate your wedding style with a wedding veil that’s both trendy and timeless!

  • Vintage sweetheart. Inspired by the 50s and 60s? Planning a wedding that borrows elements from this sweet time in the history of fashion? Fly-away wedding veils have made a comeback this year, and they come in all sorts of designs, so you are guaranteed to find something that fits you from all points of view.
  • Glamorous Roaring Twenties. If you want to have a wedding inspired by the opulence and beauty of the Great Gatsby era, a cloche or birdcage wedding veil is perfect for you. They are madly popular on the runways this year, so you will surely find something just perfect for your own style.
  • Contemporary and minimalist. Some brides prefer the elegance of simplicity – and if that’s the case for you too, you can definitely find an ultra-simple wedding veil. They are very trendy in 2018 – and the key to finding a truly amazing one lies in the quality of the fabric it’s made from.

 

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The Most Gorgeous Wedding Flower Trends of 2018

Wedding flowers are always, ALWAYS a very big part of a Big Day’s décor. Of course, you should never follow trends just because they are in – but this year’s wedding flower trends are truly remarkable and they will surely inspire you.

We have gathered below some of the prettiest wedding flower trends of 2018 – so read on if you need to steal an idea or two on how to create a stunning floral arrangement at your Big Day.

  • You may not think of moss as a wedding element – but designers have proved all of us wrong this year. Used right, moss can add such a fresh, unique vibe to your wedding day! For instance, you can use it to cover the columns of your wedding ceremony site, combined with flowers in beautiful, feminine colors. Or you can use it to decorate your wedding cake table with a moss monogram – and yes, it will look amazing!
  • Apricot orange flowers. Lively and warm, suave and yet energizing, this color has caught on like fire this year – truth be told, you have all the reasons to love it. Even more, you can find it in a variety of blooms – such as Icelandic poppies, chrysanthemums, and even peonies. Lovely trend!
  • Forages included in floral arrangements. If wild flowers were all the rage last year and two years ago, in 2018, rustic floral arrangements are getting even fiercer – they include forage, branches, and other similar elements. The effect? Absolutely amazing!

 

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You Should Follow Etiquette for Your Engagement Party Too

Brides and grooms today may not be particularly fond of engagement party etiquette – but whether you like it or not, some of these rules absolutely need to be followed. After all, they are there to ensure everyone at your wedding has a great time and doesn’t get upset for any reason, right?

Your engagement party etiquette is just as essential as the wedding day one – so yes, there are some rules you might want to follow when it comes to this particular pre-wedding event as well. What are they? Read on and find out more.

Engagement Party Etiquette

  • Plan with the wedding in mind. You don’t have to coordinate your colors with those of your Big Day, but, in general, you should keep the engagement party more low-key than the actual wedding. So, if you know you will want an intimate and casual wedding, try not to go over the top with the engagement party.
  • The same principle applies for the guest list too. ALWAYS make sure the engagement party guests will be invited to the wedding too. Otherwise, some of them may think they’ve upset you – and you really don’t want that, right?
  • Last, but definitely not least, try to register for gifts. In most cases, engagement party gifts are not even compulsory in any way – but even so, there will be guests who might want to bring something. Offering a bridal registry to choose from will make their lives so much easier!

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