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How Should You Arrange an Uneven Wedding Party?

 Your wedding is yours and nobody should tell you whether or not you can have a certain number of groomsmen and bridesmaids. After all, you want your closest friends and relatives to be part of your wedding party – and numbers shouldn’t be a criterion of selection in any way.

How to arrange an uneven wedding party, though? How to make sure that, even if you don’t have the same number of groomsmen and bridesmaids, they all look really great together? We have gathered some tips to help you with this – so read on and find out more.

• When your wedding party walks down the aisle, you have two options. You can either send all the groomsmen in at once (followed by all the bridesmaids), or you can alternate one groomsman with one bridesmaid until they all reach the altar.

• If you prefer a more traditional approach, you can also send the bridesmaids and groomsmen in pairs and have one or two last groups made out of three people (one bridesmaid and two groomsmen, for example). Regardless of what you choose, make sure to use the same rules for the recessional too.

• As for the moment your wedding party members take their places at the altar, you can either alternate one groomsman and one bridesmaid or you can have them all seated on nice chairs or ottomans near the altar (which will make it less “visible” that their numbers are uneven).

• Last, but not least, make sure to talk to your photographer about this. A great photographer will know how to arrange an uneven wedding party for the photos, but you might want to discuss things first and make it clear how “formal” or “informal” you want these pictures to look.

Stunning and marvelously elegant, Stonebrook Manor is one of the best wedding venues in Denver – so if you are searching for a special spot for your Big Day, you should definitely give us a call! You will love what our venue offers!

 

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Things to leave out of an interfaith ceremony

Love knows no boundaries, no ethnicity and no silly social rules. It moves across the nations, across religions and across cultural differences like nothing else in the entire world does. Love does conquer all – but what to do when planning an interfaith ceremony? Are there any “rules” to keep in mind? What’s more, what are the things to leave out of an interfaith ceremony? We have gathered some helpful tips – so read on and find out more

• Yes, there might be things you should leave out of an interfaith ceremony (but, in the end, it’s all up to you whether or not you actually do this). For example, if certain passages or traditions are in contradiction with those of your fiancé’s, you might want to leave them out.

• Also, it is highly recommended that you avoid including long passages spoken in a language most of the guests will not understand. It is OK to include traditions from the two cultures (and even to explain their beautiful meaning in the wedding program), but it can be very hard (and lengthy) to translate certain languages, so you might want to skip this.

• Last, but definitely not least, you might also want to avoid traditions that are highly similar to each other. The important thing is the meaning behind them and the beautiful symbolism that led to their creation – so you will not want to spoil everything by making it feel like a “repeat” version with a “twist”.

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Do We Need to Tell Our Guests About the Wedding Ceremony Beforehand?

If you are like most of the brides and grooms-to-be, you want your wedding ceremony to be absolutely perfect – and you want this both for yourselves and for your guests as well. And if you are wondering “Do we need to tell our guests about the wedding ceremony beforehand”, you have come to the right place because we have gathered some answers for you right below. Read on and find out more!

• Yes, you do need to tell your guests about the wedding ceremony beforehand. There are certain types of information that will be more than helpful when it comes to making sure your guests are fully comfortable on your Big Day – and these “tips” should be shared with them long before the wedding.

• For example, if you want to have an outdoor wedding, please be sure to announce this beforehand. Your guests should know how to dress and what footwear to choose, so that they are comfortable with your outdoor wedding.

• Also, you should share with your guests if you want to have a very religious ceremony. Depending on what type of ceremony you want to have, your guests may have to be prepared (such as by covering their heads, for example).

• Last, but definitely not least, you should share with your guests information about the “break” between the ceremony and the reception as well. This should give them a good idea of how long it will all take and how to plan their days around your schedule.

Searching for a truly beautiful wedding venue in Denver? Contact Stonebrook Manor Event Center Gardens and come visit us to see with your own eyes how gorgeous our venue looks! Come visit us and allow the grace of our manicured gardens and elegant venue to embrace you for the Big Day!

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How to Pull Off a Chic Monochromatic Wedding

Your wedding color scheme can make or break your entire wedding décor – so it is of the utmost importance that you choose it wisely. How do you pull off a monochromatic wedding, though? How do you make certain a monochromatic wedding will not look too dull or that it will lack style?

We have gathered some of the best tips to help you pull off a chic monochromatic wedding – so read on and find your inspiration:

a-1381• You really don’t have to stick to one color. Or, better said, you don’t have to stick to one shade of your favorite color. As a matter of fact, choosing different shades of the same color can look extremely stylish and it can add liveliness, beauty and grace to your entire wedding décor.

• You should pay-extra attention to your wedding venue. When choosing your venue, please make sure to keep your wedding color into consideration. While you might not be able to change everything in the venue (e.g. you might not be allowed to replace the carpets, for example), you should still pay a lot of attention to the rest of the details and you should be certain that they match your chosen color. Furthermore, remind yourself to match your wedding color both with the reception venue and with the ceremony site as well.

• Last, but definitely not least, don’t obsess over your wedding color. You don’t have to “paint” every single detail of the Big Day in this color – on the contrary, actually, you should place your key décor elements farther from each other, so that you emphasize the beauty of your monochromatic color scheme.

Searching for a wedding venue in Denver? Here at Stonebrook Manor Event Center Gardens, we can provide you with a splendid space, ready to accommodate a wide range of ideas! Contact us, visit us in person and book us for the Big Day!

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Why Do Couples Renew Their Vows?

For many couples, once is enough. Their wedding is a cherished memory, but they don’t feel the need to renew their vows. For others, vow-renewal ceremonies are a special opportunity to reinforce the bond between them and reaffirm the strength of their marriage. In fact, there are many reasons why couples choose to renew their vows.

First Wedding Wasn’t “Complete”

One reason couples decide to renew their vows is that they feel their first ceremony was lacking in some way. Maybe they were married in a legal ceremony, but now want to be renew their vows in a church. Or perhaps their first ceremony was spiritual only, but now they want to make it legal.

In some cases, couples chose a courthouse wedding the first time around, either to save money or for other reasons. They may always have planned to have a vow-renewal ceremony and reception at a later date, when they would be better able to plan a large (or small) party.

To Reaffirm their Commitment

Life can test even the strongest relationships. After a difficult stretch in their relationship or a challenging life event, couples may feel the desire to renew their vows. This could be in either a very small, personal ceremony or in front of all their friends, depending on the circumstances and the individual needs of the couple.

To Celebrate a Major Anniversary

Couples may choose to incorporate a vow-renewal ceremony into an anniversary celebration. Especially if they are already planning an anniversary party, why not incorporate a vow renewal? Or, renewing vows can be a romantic part of an anniversary trip (perhaps a late or second honeymoon).

Because They Want To

It isn’t necessary to have a specific reason. Some couples aren’t interested in renewing their vows, but for others, it just feels like a natural thing to do.

Whatever the reason, a strong marriage is something to celebrate. Vow-renewal ceremonies can be small and personal or the big party you didn’t have the first time around (or just want to relive). Stonebrook Manor in north Denver can help you plan a special event to meet your needs, from an intimate garden reception to a full-scale catered event with dancing and cake.

Contact us today to schedule a tour.

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Big Wedding vs. Courthouse Wedding

Wedding planning can be overwhelming. Sometimes it can be tempting to skip all the hassle and just have a no-frills courthouse wedding. Big weddings aren’t for everybody, nor are courthouse weddings. Before deciding on the scale of your wedding, it is important to give careful consideration to what you really want.

Think Big

Perhaps you’ve always dreamed of a big wedding. An amazing venue overflowing with flowers, a multi-tiered cake, hundreds of guests, and all the rest. A large wedding can be an amazing event you will remember forever. It’s also one of those rare events that can reunite scattered families and bring diverse groups of people together to celebrate a special event.

But big weddings are also very expensive. They take a lot of time and planning, and the stress of planning a wedding can take its toll on even the strongest couple. At their worst, big weddings are fraught with expectations and the possibility of things going wrong.

Considering the Courthouse

At the opposite end of the wedding spectrum is the simple courthouse wedding, either just the two of you or witnessed by a few close friends. Courthouse weddings are quick and inexpensive. They also avoid the large family get-together that can come with all the wrong kind of drama.

Courthouse weddings are intimate. Despite their reputation of being chosen primarily for expediency, they can be very romantic for some couples. On the other hand, courthouse weddings can also feel impersonal and can be immensely disappointing for a woman who always dreamed of a fairy-tale wedding. Is the benefit of saving time and money really worth years of regret?

Careful Compromise

The good news is that big weddings and courthouse weddings are at opposite extremes of the many possibilities for a wedding.

Couples sometimes choose a courthouse wedding because they think they can’t afford a more traditional wedding. However, there are many ways to save money on a wedding. A summer wedding in a beautiful backyard with a potluck reception and a rented wedding dress can still feel like a very special occasion without putting a couple into debt. If you don’t know anybody with a large enough yard, consider renting a picnic shelter at a local park. Decide which elements of a “traditional” wedding really matter most to you and let yourself indulge in those, but let go of the rest.

If your main concern is getting married quickly, either for practical reasons or because you just can’t wait, you still aren’t limited to a courthouse wedding. With a little creativity, a small but personalized wedding can be planned quite quickly. Even a larger wedding can be arranged fairly quickly, although you may be limited in choice of venue and there will be less time for out-of-town guests to make arrangements.

If it is the stress of planning a big wedding that is leading you to consider giving it all up in favor of a courthouse wedding, consider hiring a wedding planner. A good wedding planner can save you time, money, and, most importantly, your sanity!

The Final Decision

Whether you already know what kind of wedding you want or you’re still weighing your options, Stonebrook Manor in north Denver can help you plan a wedding you’ll remember forever.

We can be creative to keep your dream wedding within your budget, and our wedding packages make the planning easy. Contact us today to learn more about how we can help you have the wedding you could only dream of.

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Where Did The Term “Getting Hitched” Come From?

“Getting hitched” is one of our most common slangs for getting married, but where did this phrase come from?

A Uniquely American Expression

We’re not certain how the worth “hitch” enters English (though there are a few theories), but it’s originally associated with an irregular movement or jerking sensation from about the 15th century. It doesn’t come to mean tied or fastened for a century, first gaining that meaning in 1570. From there it came to be used to describe tying horses up to a wagon, and then in the US it came to be used to describe getting married, as if two people were being tied together the way that horses are tied to a wagon.

Equality in Marriage

The phrase is a natural one for a society that was primarily agrarian and utilized animal power for most of its industrial activities. From plowing to transport to running a mill, people had a sense that animals were used for work, and this phrase emphasizes the fact that marriage and maintaining a household are work.

The phrase also carries with it an egalitarian 19th century sensibility, that when two people are bound together in marriage they should bear the responsibilities of life equally, the way a team of horses is supposed to work to pull a wagon.

A Biblical Connotation

The phrase has an additional meaning for a strongly religious community because it has several potential parallels in the Bible. For example, the passage, “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness?” (2 Cor. 6:14) is commonly interpreted as referring to a prohibition of Christians marrying non-Christians, referring back to Deuteronomy’s law against plowing with an ox and a donkey yoked together (Deut. 22:10).

It also refers back to Jesus’ admonition, “Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me; for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” (Mt. 11:29-30) Read in this context, the work of marriage takes on a redeeming, joyful quality.

With all these meanings, it’s no wonder that the phrase gained quickly in popularity to become one that we still use, more than a century and a half later.

If you are looking for a wedding venue for getting hitched, please call 303-557-2347 or contact Stonebrook Manor in north Denver for a tour of our beautiful facilities.

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Does the Bride’s Father Always Pay for the Wedding?

Who Pays for the wedding?Who pays for the wedding?

Although it’s traditional that the bride’s father pays for the wedding, this tradition is rooted in customs that are no longer relevant, and there are many ways to determine who will pay for the wedding.

Why the Bride’s Family Traditionally Pays

The tradition that the bride’s family pay for the wedding is derived from the notion of a dowry. In the past, when women weren’t allowed to live on their own, work outside the home, or own property, an unmarried daughter was a considerable burden, especially on families living at or near the subsistence level. To remove this burden, her family would pay a man to marry her. The money also helped cover the expenses of setting up the new home and helping the man become more productive so he could support an extra mouth with his labor.

Looked in that light, the tradition is at best irrelevant to the modern world and at worst potentially offensive. Some women look at a dowry as a bribe offered to a husband so he would consent to marry them, and linking their wedding with this tradition is insulting.

Some people like tradition for tradition’s sake, but others consider alternatives.

Splitting the Cost Evenly

One potential alternative is that everyone involved in the party pay their fair share. Dividing the costs evenly allows everyone to participate as equals in the wedding, which is good financially for the bride’s family, but has other benefits, too. Sharing the costs leads to sharing the decision-making. It brings both families together to work on the wedding and sets up a model of cooperation that can help the families become one.

It’s also good to divide the costs three ways rather than two. Making an engaged young couple pay a share of the costs helps them to start thinking of themselves as adults. It will encourage them to make reasonable decisions and factor in their budget when planning, which is a good habit to learn early in a marriage.

The only problem with this option is that it can be a delicate one to bring up. If a groom’s family is expecting the bride’s family to pay, it can cause some friction when the subject is brought up. The bride’s family, too, may be offended if they think the implication is that they can’t afford to pay. The best way to approach this is for the betrothed couple to make this decision for themselves, then discuss it with their families separately.

When Couples Should Pay for Their Own Wedding

However, the whole tradition of having the parents pay comes from a time when children only left home when they were married. In today’s society, many couples have lived on their own for years—even decades—before choosing to get married. In these cases, it makes no sense to ask the parents to pay and couples should cover the costs of the wedding themselves.

Second marriages, especially, should be viewed by the couple as their responsibility.

Although parents should not feel obligated, their spontaneous offers of help should still be taken in the loving spirit they’re offered. Sharing the cost of a wedding allows for more friends and family to come together to celebrate the special event.

If you would like to learn more about handling traditional problems in a modern marriage, we can help. Please contact Stonebrook Manor today and schedule a consultation and tour of our Denver wedding venue.

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The Do’s and Don’ts of Wedding Dress Shopping

After the excitement of the proposal has worn off it is time to start one of the most important parts of planning a wedding, shopping for your dress!

Most people believe that dress shopping is easy. But the truth is it can be stressful and exhausting both emotionally and physically. Shopping for your wedding dress should be an enjoyable and memorable experience. But with thousands of wedding gowns to choose from and multiple bridal boutiques to visit it can quickly become overwhelming.

Here are a few Do’s to make your wedding dress shopping experience the best!

Prepare For The Day!

One thing that many Brides forget to do is Eat! You are so excited to find the perfect wedding dress that you forget to eat. Not having food in your stomach can cause you to feel faint, or just to become irritable and not be able to make the best decision on your gown. So eat a full breakfast, or simply grab a granola bar.

Do A Little Research

You want your wedding dress shopping experience to be easy and stress-free so one thing we recommend is to do a little research ahead of time. You don’t want to go into the boutiques with no idea of what you like so spend a little time on Pinterest researching wedding dresses or buy a bridal magazine. Doing so will give you an idea of the look you are attracted to or the overall feeling that you want your wedding to be. This will help your Bridal Stylist visually understand what you like and then be able to bring the perfect wedding dress to you.

Have An Open Mind

Doing some research ahead of time will help you understand what you like but make sure you don’t have your heart set on one thing. Once you start trying gowns on you may see that your vision changes, so make sure you come with an open mind. Trust you Bridal Stylist and openly communicate with her about your likes and dislikes. She will take all the information you offer, the good and the bad and be able to blend them all into one beautiful dress that is perfect for you!

Wear Proper Undergarments

I know this might sound crazy, like who wouldn’t wear undergarments when they go out shopping in public? But it is true! Shopping for your wedding dress is different from regular retail shopping. Most of the time will be spent with you and your Bridal Stylist in the dressing room together and yes, you will be in your undergarments so make sure to wear some!

Things Not To Do When Wedding Dress Shopping:

Unknown Budget

Prices for wedding dresses can range from $300 – $50,000, so you need to know how much you are will to spend before you hit the boutiques. You don’t want them to put you in a gown that is way over your budget because if you love it you can’t afford it you will be devastated.

Don’t Bring Too Many People

You may think that you want all of your family and friends to go shopping with you. The reality is sometimes you can bring too many people or just the wrong people. A good general rule of thumb is to bring 3-4 of your closest family and/or friends and that’s it! Dress shopping is overwhelming by itself without adding all of your bridesmaids, cousins and soon-to-be sisters-in-law. Less is more in this area, bring the ones that you value their opinion the most!

Don’t Show Up Without An Appointment

You want to make certain your dress shopping experience is enjoyable and memorable so don’t wing it! Make sure that you call the boutiques that you are interested in shopping at ahead of time to schedule an appointment. If the bridal boutique is booked when you arrive and you don’t have an appointment they will turn you away. Talk about ruining the experience!

Don’t Choose A Wedding Dress Just Because It’s Trendy

You know that fashion trends change from time to time and many of them are things that you may not want to look back on in twenty years. Keep this in mind when you are shopping for your wedding dress. If something is super trendy it may not be the perfect wedding dress for you. Take a moment to think about in ten years when you look at your pictures what do you want to see. Your wedding gown should be timeless so keep this in mind while you are shopping.

Don’t Make Impulse Buying Decisions

Sales at most bridal boutiques are final so do not make impulse purchases. If you have a doubt or feel a little uncertain speak to your Bridal Stylist and let her know that you need to think about it. Sharing your thoughts or uncertainties will make certain that you are choosing the perfect dress for your wedding day.

Shopping for your wedding dress is magical and emotional experience. Cherish the time you have, don’t stress about it and trust your Stylist. The perfect wedding dress can truly be yours!

 

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Everyone Should Know These Wedding Ceremony Rules

It’s natural to want your wedding ceremony to be magically perfect – and while the flowers, the music, and the backdrop surely matter a lot, it is also important to make sure you follow some etiquette rules that will make everyone happy (including yourself).

What are the wedding ceremony rules all couples should know? We have some tips for you – so read on and find out more.

  • You don’t have to include everyone in the wedding, even if they’re a relatively close member of the family. It’s entirely your choice if you give all of your willing relatives the chance to do a reading or speak during the ceremony – you can assign them many other tasks (such as ushering the guests, making sure the VIP seats aren’t taken, etc.)
  • You don’t have to follow tradition word by word, especially if it makes you feel distressed. For instance, it’s completely understandable if you think your Ring Bearer is too young to bear the responsibility of two little (and easy to get lost!) rings on a pillow. So, it’s totally OK if he carries them in a box, or if the rings are tied to the pillow. Even more, it’s OK if he doesn’t actually carry the rings at all – he can carry something else, such as the unity candle.
  • You can definitely ask people not to take photos until after the ceremony. Let them know of your wish in the wedding programs, and ask ushers to remind guests of this when they enter the wedding ceremony site as well. We’re sure they will all respect your choice!

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